Fall Workshops and Intensives

Hello Fabulous People,

   We have an incredible line up of workshops and intensives coming up this fall in San Francisco, Seattle, and New York.  Hope to see you there.

Much love,

Madison

 

September 13th and 14th  – Manifesting Sexual Mastery  – San Francisco

In this innovative 2 Day Intensive –  September 13th and 14th at  San Francisco’s KINK.com Armory  –  feminist porn icon and International Sexpert – Madison Young, divulges the sexual secrets of exploring andexpressing your sexuality with the passion, prowess and gusto of a sexual master and with the heart and intimacy of a skilled lover.

Through a series of hands on workshops, radical sex presentations and live demonstrations coupled with assigned homework and complimentary reading materials, Young promises to sexually empower individuals in this transformative weekend long experience.

Fun hands-on intimacy labs allow participants time and space to explore your own desires as well as improve techniques in communicating and manifesting your intimate and powerful orgasmic climaxes like a sexual god/goddess.

This weakend will be a gifted opportunity at deepening connection through orgasmic kissing techniques, basic bondage for bedroom, orgasmic g-spot stimulation, creative sexual positions, deep-throating techniques, fellatio enhancement and powerful passionate oral sex with cunnilingus that will have you and your partner/s screaming for more.

Buy Tickets at – https://advance.zozi.com/express/activities/2828

More info: http://ManifestingSexualMastery.wordpress.com

 

September 27th – How to Fuck Like a Porn Star – NYC

In this innovative and experiential day long workshop intensive,September 27th 2014, feminist porn icon and erotic film director – Madison Young, divulges the sexual secrets of exploring and expressing your sexuality with the passion, prowess and gusto of a porn starlet and with the heart and intimacy of a skilled lover.

Through a series of hands on workshops, radical sex presentations and live demonstrations coupled with assigned homework and complimentary reading materials, Young promises to sexually empower individuals in this transformative day of decadence experience.  Fun hands-on intimacy labsallow participants time and space to explore their own desires as well as improve techniques in communicating and manifesting their intimate and powerful orgasmic climaxes like you have only seen in your favorite erotic films and kinkiest fantasies.

This sensual Saturday experience will be a gift and opportunity at deepening connection through orgasmic kissing techniques,  basic bondage for bedroom, orgasmic g spot stimulation, creative sexual positionsdeep throating techniques,  fellatio enhancement and powerful passionate oral sex with cunnilingus that will have you and your partner/s screaming for more.

This day of sexy technique and inspirational hands on guidance will be followed by an intimate play party in which individuals and partners can test out there newly discovered porn-fabulous sex skills.

Location is in an easily accessible Brooklyn neighborhood and specific location details as well as additional information will be sent 3 days prior to the event.

More Info and Registration available HERE

October 3rd, 4th, 5th – Erotic Film School – NYC

Erotic Film School will take place on October 3rd, 4th and 5th in Brooklyn, New York at Teleportation Art Center and facilitated by world renowned feminist porn director, Madison Young.

The program will walk participants through every step of production from the development of a narrative and shot list to creating a budget and booking/collaborating with models and crew.

At the end of the 3 days of programming participants will have worked with industry models, video and photography cameras, developed a collaborative script and shot list, shot and directed a short erotic film, edited a short erotic film, screened the final project for the class and friends and submitted a final collaborative project to the infamous erotic film festival Cinekink.

Each day will be catered and there will be extra curricula outside of class events for crew bonding and collaborative and inspiring downtime.

 

November 15th and 16th – Manifesting Sexual Mastery – Seattle – 

I’m thrilled to announce that I will be bringing my weekend intimacy intensive Manifesting Sexual Mastery to Seattle on November 15th and 16th 2014.  I have secured a spacious residential location in the Seattle area with plentiful indoor and outdoor landscape in which we will be exploring and expanding our capacity for erotic expression and shared intimacy.

In this innovative 2 Day Intensive –   on November 15th and 16th in Seattle –  feminist porn icon and International Sexpert – Madison Young, divulges the sexual secrets of exploring and expressing your sexuality with the passion, prowess and gusto of a sexual master and with the heart and intimacy of a skilled lover.

Through a series of hands on workshops, radical sex presentations and live demonstrations coupled with assigned homework and complimentary reading materials, Young promises to sexually empower individuals in this transformative weekend long experience.

Fun hands-on intimacy labs allow participants time and space to explore your own desires as well as improve techniques in communicating and manifesting your intimate and powerful orgasmic climaxes like a sexual god/goddess.

This weakend will be a gifted opportunity at deepening connection through orgasmic kissing techniques, basic bondage for bedroom, orgasmic g-spot stimulation, creative sexual positions, deep-throating techniques, fellatio enhancement and powerful passionate oral sex with cunnilingus that will have you and your partner/s screaming for more.

This intensive is limited to 20 individuals so please register today  – HERE 

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We dedicate this to…

madisonyoungsexpert:

Absolutely fabulous homage to Annie Sprinkle’s Bosom Ballet

Originally posted on Kampnagel Sommerfestival 2014:

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…Annie Sprinkle.

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Hot Summer Special on Madison Young DVD’s

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Hot Feminist Porn can be a great catalyst for talking about sex and inspiring, hot, connected sex in the bed room.  This week only Madison is offering a choice of any of her Madison Young Dvds including a collection of Madison’s favorite feminist porn directors ( Tristan Taormino, Annie Sprinkle, Courtney Trouble and more) for only $10!  Summer is here and the weather is hot and so are our libidos.  Indulge in hot summer sex and sexy feminist porn.

(Please specify your desired film in customer notes and if you would like it personalized and autographed please state the name you would like it signed to. (Special only valid until May 21st and with in the US – any outside US order are subject to additional shipping costs)

Purchase your Summer Time Madison Young DVDS for promotional price of $10 - HERE

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Salon Loves Daddy

Check out this review and Q&A that Salon did with Madison Young delving into the depths of “Daddy” .  Read all about it HERE. Image

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Toronto and NYC Spring 2014 Tour Dates

April 6th  University of Toronto(Feminist Porn Conference) – Toronto,Canada – Madison Young will be presenting her multi-media presentation Reel Love: Navigating Relationships On Camera and Off— Challenges, Failures and Successes in Documenting Your Sex Life – When your job includes documenting your own authentic expression of sexual self, how do you navigate what is private versus public? When real life lovers document their relationship within the context of feminist pornography how does they retain intimacy? What agreements, communication skills and negotiation tools aid in holding space for the intensity of sharing one’s most intimate moments on-screen? Madison Young addresses these questions while sharing moments from her scrapbook of sexual encounters spanning a decade of photography, film, and excerpts from her recently published memoir, “Daddy” in this  insightful presentation that explores the reality behind Reel Love. Madison will be reading excerpts from her memoir “Daddy” as well as signing books at the event.

New York Tour Dates

April 8th – Purple Passion – I’ll be teaching my Deep Throat & Oral Pleasure Workshop from 7pm – 9pm and  Signing Books Afterward – Tickets Available HERE

April 9th – Pleasure Chest NYC – I’ll be teaching my motherhood and sexuality workshop from 8 – 10pm and Signing Books Afterward

April 10th - 50 Shades of Decadence: An Evening with Feminist Porn Icon & Performance Artist Madison Young - This will be a spectacular evening of screening 50 Shades of Dylan Ryan, bondage performance, chocolate, libations & book signing – Tickets will sell out. FaceBook Event Info HERE  and Tickets available HERE

April 11 - Unicorns, Mermaids and Porn Stars Oh My! – Join me for a mythological creature costume contest, q&a, book signing & screening of my femme fabulous Mermaids and Unicorns, an erotic film.  For details and tickets visit SHAG at HERE

April 12thHow to F@#k Like a Porn Star - In this Day long intensive workshop, dinner and play party you will learn how to let out your inner sexual porn fabulous self with the technique and passion of a porn star and the skilled intimacy of a masterful lover. Tickets and details can be found HERE

April 13th - Intersections of Queer Performance Art and Feminist Pornography

Madison Young guides the audience through a multi-media presentation consisting of video art, film, photography and documentation of live performance art works created by feminists, queers, counter-culture renegades and activists who are addressing sexuality, sex work, and sexual identity in an explicit and graphic manner through their media and conceptually driven works of art. Young will also be presenting on short excerpts of sex positive artistically driven pornography and engage in a conversation surrounding the importance of both sexually explicit art and pornography in our culture as discuss the points of intersection amongst theses two forms of media and where conceptually and contextually pornography and art divert from one another.

The evening concludes with a q&a and book signing of Madison Young’s recently released memoir, “Daddy” (http://daddythememoir.wordpress.com) More Info HERE

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Dear Reluctant Performer

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Dear Sexpert Next Door,
I’m hoping that since you are also a mother, you can help with this.  My husband really enjoys watching.  Watching me dance, masturbate, watching us in the mirror, etc.  For years, this was a hard limit for me as I was very self conscious. I eventually got over it (which led to some extraordinary nights), but now I’m having another problem.  18 months ago I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, who is perfect in every way.  But this left me with a not-so-attractive midsection.  I have stretch marks and mildly saggy skin.  I’ve been assured that it’s just genetics, but it could take another 18 months to smooth out.  In clothes, I look fantastic, but now when my husband watches me unclothed, or especially when I know he’s watching us together in the mirror, I get super self conscious and mentally pulled out of the scene.  He says I’m beautiful and our sex life is better than ever, but I really want to get past this and enjoy myself more.
 Thanks,
A Reluctant Performer
Dear Reluctant Performer,
I’ve been there. Having a baby is a major life change – emotionally and physically.  Know that what you are feeling is completely natural.  Change is challenging and it takes time for us to get to know and love our post-partum bodies and selves.  Accepting ourselves as we are in this very moment, NOT attempting to reverse time, to achieve a body or self that was ours pre-mommy, its hard work.
Be gentle with yourself, emotionally. Don’t feel like your post-partum mommy self needs to fit into the body or desires that fit your pre-mommy self.  Work on letting go of what you thought you knew about yourself and give yourself space to assess.  Ask yourself, “Does this feel good?” “Where do I want to be touched?” Explore what feels sexy to you now.   Take time to grieve the loss of your pre-mommy self and celebrate the life, relationships, love and new body that is your’s now.
We have been through a journey, we are still journeying, where we are headed is somewhere new, into the future.  Our bodies will not be what they were before, but they will change.  Change is one thing that we can count on.  Everyday we are changing and transforming.  It’s a beautiful thing.
One of the things that I tell my 2 year old child when they are feeling frustrated and experiencing a tantrum, is “Be Gentle with yourself.  Be Gentle with others.  Be gentle with the World around you.”  I use this as a mantra through all aspects of my life.  This doesn’t mean that the new sex that you experience needs to be soft and sensual and uber-lovey.  It just means be gentle emotionally with yourself.  Give yourself space.  Don’t feel like you have to live up to certain expectations. .  Allow room for growth and change.  Know that, yes our identities are shifting, our bodies and self image is shifting, and that’s ok.
If you feel insecure around your mid-section think about ways that you can reclaim that area.  I love vintage lingerie, garters, lacy high waist panties, panty hose, fun tights that I cut the crotch out of , waist cinchers, all of these accessories helped me to feel more confident and sexy in my new mommy body.  Go out shopping and see what clothes make you feel sexy.
I’m also a big fan of affirmations and meditation.  Touch your body. Send love and pleasure to your body.  Look at your body in the mirror and see the beauty in your shape.  That body birthed new life and love.  That’s pretty radical!  Gift love and pleasure and gratitude to your body for what it has gifted you.  It’s not easy.  I battle my own insecurities.  Voices from the me that was a size zero and performing in mainstream porn in LA’s San Fernando Valley.  But you know, that girl is not me.  It’s a past me. A body of the past. And I love my new body now.  Kink exists in different ways now that I’m a mommy.  And my energy levels and desires are different and change – sometimes based on whether a certain someone made it down for a nap.  But regardless of energy levels and a new mommy body, I still have desires.  I still embrace pleasure.
Being physically active helps.  As I gained my physical strength back after having a baby, I continued to feel more confident about my body.  I focused more on how my body felt, my energy levels, my bodies capabilities and strength.  When my body was strong enough to get back into the practice of rope bondage suspension, I felt an element of great confidence in my body and what it was capable of, I felt strong and beautiful (even with leaky milk breasts :) .
 – Sometimes a nice place to start is meditation and visualization.  Close your eyes or allow your partner to blind fold you and visualize the you that you love, participating in your ultimate fantasy, whatever that might be.  Now allow where you are in this moment to seep in.  The smell of a burning candle, the touch of your lovers fingers grazing over your breasts.  Allow your self to be present with your partner.  Any negative thoughts or concerns or worries that pass through your mind, let them go.  Exhale those thoughts and make room in your body and mind for pleasure, sensation, and positive radiance generated between you and your partner.  Its ok when those negative thoughts enter your mind.  Acknowledge their presence and exhale that thought, that worry, that concern.  I like to visualize the ocean tide washing over me and taking with it any sticky icky insecurities.  I’ve included my Sex and Motherhood Sex Tips from my Sex, Motherhood and Pregnancy workshop.  I hope you find them helpful.  Congrats on your little one and on your new journey.  I also do personal sex coaching via Skype and love working with moms.
All the Best,
Madison – The Sexpert Next Door

Sex Tips for Moms

 Keep the Connection – talking about staying connected with our partner and keeping intimacy even when sexual intimacy changes – Remember the “tossing the pillow exercise”. Give intent and energy to the small intimacies and touch that you share with your partner. We might not always have time for marathon love making but even the smallest touch, hand holding, or hand to the heart while gazing into our partners eyes can allow for shared connected intimacy and garner passion. Flames begin with a spark, don’t disregard the power of a spark that is full of intention.  Ways in our every day life to keep physically connected. Physical connection creates space for intimacy and energy exchange.

       - Massage

       - Dance

        - hugs

         - embraces

           - spooning

           - making out

        -Workshops – Sexuality workshops, Kink workshops

         - Foot Rubs

         - Get Active together – hiking, walking, biking, couples yoga

        

  1. Date Nights - visualization of your fantasy date night with your partner

  2. Take time even 10 minutes to visualize your fantasy date night or a night of hot intimacy with your lover. Close your eyes, allow all of your thoughts to drift in and out of your consciousness as you come back to this connection with your partner. Where do you picture this happening? What do you smell? What do you taste?Feel? Are the sheets satiny? Are you wearing new lingerie? What color? What is your partner wearing? What does your partner say? Is there certain music playing in the back ground? Do certain colors stand out in your meditation? Where is your partner touching you? Guide your partner through how you would like to be touched. You are beautiful. You aredesired. You are confident in guiding your partner to fulfilling your desires. Experience touch and sensation moment by moment, notpushing or rushing forward to a goal, be present with yourself, with your partner. Allow yourself 10 – 20 min to visualize and meditate in this state using this above exercise asking yourself these questions. Allow this manifestation to seep into your reality. For example if you recall orange or red pillows on the bed and a brilliant purple orchid on your night stand in your fantasy embrace these visuals and pick up a purple orchid at your farmers market or florist. Revisit that fantasy through meditation. Use the confidence that you build in your meditation in your real life intimate encounters when guiding your partner to your desire.

 - Collage - desires, fantasies, where do you want to be touched? where does your fantasy take place, what does it look like?  what does your partner say? – Words?

What parts of this fantasy can you incorporate tonight or tomorrow?

         

- Take up writing love letters or postcards to one another – postcards, stationary, card stock, note paper, wax seals. Whether it is a simple journal or leaving post its for one another on the bathroom mirror. Write a sentence, or a simple word and gift those words of love and desire to your partner.

          

- Make an Agreement to Love

  1. state your needs and desires in this relationship

  2. your partners needs and desires

  3. fantasies you would like to commit to exploring for a weeks time or a month/etc

  4. how these fantasies manifest in your every day life – for example:

  5. once a month we will go to a sexuality workshop that interests us. at least twice a week I will place a note of love and gratitude in my partners mail box (post it on the mirror,etc), on date night friday I won’t wear any panties and will wear the high heels that make me look really sexy that you always drool over. every friday night we will have a date night even if that means popping up a tent in our back yard and making out over roasted marshmallows after the kids are asleep

Treat this document as a working agreement that you both nurture and refer back to on a monthly basis.  If something isn’t working find out why and change it. Should be used as a communication tool. If it feels obligatory then it needs to change. Leave room for change and acknowledge that change is ok. That what you desire will change. And that there are no rules for what your relationship has to look like.

Couples Affirmation Exercise - Sitting across from one another cross legged and palms lying in each others hands

Person 1:  – I love you.  You are a creative being that inspires me.

Person 2: – I am filled with gratitude by your love. I love you. You are radiant in your newly pregnant body(alter accordingly – new motherly body or just “beautiful body”).

Person 1: – I am filled with gratitude by your love. I love you. … (another thing that you love about your partner. Go back in forth in this exercise for 5 min set timer)

Sexual Portraits- Give private space for women to step in front of the camera one at a time while working on their love agreement and love letters.  Have folks record a 5 min video journal of their sexual desires, how they are feeling about their bodies, their insecurities, one thing they love about their new body and sexuality. Many women and men find it very validating to their experience to document their transformation and emotions. This is basically a form of video journalling which you can keep for yourself for reflection.

State name

How many weeks pregnant or how old their child is

A part of their body that they love

Something about their partner that really turns them on

One sexual fantasy or a moment of great sexual arousal

Affirmation to state in the video journal also works in the mirror “ I am beautiful.  My body is beautiful.  My body is radiant.  I am a radiant individual filled with ecstatic energy to share with myself and partner. I am filled with love”. 

     

Sex Tips for the Time Sensitive

 - Making the most of showering  – hand held shower nozzle and water proof sex toys – highly recommend the mystic wand

 - Bath time is mommy time - go to LUSH or your favorite bath store and load up on luxurious bath items.  Take time to soak, read a book, touch your body, become reacquainted with it, Bath tub video journals, personal bath time sexuality journals or portraits, body portraits in the tub with i phone, candles

 - Nap time Naughtiness - make the most out of nap time with either self love or time to reconnect with your partner

 - Morning Time – set your alarm for before your child normally wakes up and find time for sexual intimacy in the morning.

 

 - Go shopping for new lingerie - this should be something you feel confident in. For me a sexy black leather jacket, knee high leather boots, high heels or sexy fitting jeans all qualify as “lingerie”. Its an item of clothing that gives you a new found feeling of sexy.

 - Bed time – No Sitter? Wait until the munchkins are in bed. Turn on the baby monitor and make a date night for yourselves at home. A candle lit dinner, a tent in the back yard, fooling around in the garage, or in the car.

 - Baby sitter – Date Night/s - Make them a priority. If you are light on cash pair up with other friends who have kids and offer to watch their kids on friday nights if they watch your kids on saturday night. Put date nights on the calendar.

Starting  your own Sexy Mama Social Club - find time to talk about sex with friends – either online or in person.

Allowing yourself time and permission to transform, change, shift. like a snow globe. All of the pieces of our identity are still their just shifted around.

Giving yourself time for self love, body loving affirmations.

Kink aware professionals – midwives, doulas, doctors, and therapists that are all sex positive that you can talk to. https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals-directory/kap-directory-homepage.html

Get moving for libido and body - keeping physically active adds body and sexual confidence, gives endorphin rush, and helps to nurture healthy sex drive actually increasing our energy that we have for our family and our relationship.

Love the body that you are in, not the body that may be one day. Our bodies shift and change. We move forward, not backward. Embrace that, accept that and know that you are beautiful as you are.

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Dear Is It Real

Dear Sexpert Next Door,
   Big question! I usually make my lady wait for sex because when I do she gets really juicy (if you know what I mean).  And it’s better than regular sex so much so,that I’m ready to explode in a few minutes top! She says she feels good and climaxes buuuut how can I be sure? Because I’m sure feeling good!
 Sincerely,
 Is It Real

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Dear Is it Real,

It sounds like you and your lover are having a wonderful time but you want to ensure that she is actually aroused, not just pretending to be aroused for your satisfaction.

This comes down to trust and communication. Create space for open communication around what turns you and your partner on.  What you should NOT say is : “So what can I do better?”  It’s not about focusing on what isn’t working, but on what is working.  Discovering what your mutual fantasies are and making room for communication and exploration of those fantasies together.

Instead offer your own positive communication around what turns you on regarding your partner: “You know what really gets me hot?  Your tits.  I love when you touch your breasts and pout your lips.  I get so hard just thinking about your tits rubbing up against my hard cock.  What gets you hot my love?  What feels good to you?”  Your partner might need more lead in to connect with her fantasies or to open up regarding the specifics of how she likes to be touched.  You can ask her while rubbing her feet to close her eyes and describe to you the last sexual adventure that you both encountered that blew her mind.  Listen carefully to what details she remembers.  What elements of foreplay.  The type of touch.  Does she smile and grow quiet or her voice start to quiver when describing a certain touch, a certain toy, something that you whispered in her ear, a scent of roses in the room.  What sensory details does she remember?  Maybe it was a certain spot on her body in which you kissed her.  Other ways to build communication around sexual arousal are from attending sexuality workshops together, taking a trip to a sex positive toy store, an erotic art exhibition, or other educational or cultural events in which sexuality is openly discussed.  This helps to break down any suppressed shame around sexual communication and offers opportunities that openly grant permission to talk about and think about our sexual desires and fantasies, as well as courage to communicate those desires to our partners.

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There are also sexual education films that contain explicit sex scenes which can be fun to pick out together and watch together.  A few educational lines that I suggest are Vivid Ed by director Tristan Taormino as well as my own educational videos out through Girlfriends Films.  Remember to create opportunities for open dialogue, not shove media or force situations onto your partner that they aren’t comfortable with.  Sex coaching can be another way to more privately have a facilitator around sexual desire and sexual communication.  You can find out more about sex coaching here.  I started sex coaching with couples specifically because often folks needed a greater degree of privacy and more concentrated attention from me as an educator. Sex coaching allows that time, privacy and space to explore your desires with a guide’s help.
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You also mention taking your time with your partner.  Teasing your partner.  That can be an excellent form of arousal.  And it sound like your teasing and foreplay are producing vaginal fluids and glandular secretions that are creating the vaginal moisture and wetness and that you reference.  It’s important to pay attention to physical and verbal cues that go past simply vaginal secretions.  Connect with your partner with touch, massage, eye contact, and breath.  Listen to her breath. Watch her body.  Is it moving in toward you, away, or in a neutral position?  Listen to her body language and give room for her words.  “How is this my love?” Offer language. “Deeper? Softer? More fingers?” Don’t overwhelm but offer language as a guide.  Communication can be sexy and is an active outward expression of our desire.  It’s super hot.  Along the same lines, role model healthy and super sexy communication around your own desire as well.  “Wow.  I love it when your back is arched like that.  Can I pull your hips towards me? I want you so close to me.” This models consent, communication, and authentic expression of your own pleasure.

If your partner does tell you that she doesn’t orgasm while engaging in penetration with your cock, well, that is ok.  Plenty of women don’t.  And it doesn’t mean that they are faking arousal or enjoyment.  You can be super turned on and sex can feel really freaking amazing and that doesn’t mean that you are going to orgasm.  Many women have clitoral orgasms and the clitoris is outside of the vaginal canal. Consider cunnilingus and finger stimulation/vulva massage or g-spot stimulation to gift your partner with climactic pleasure either before or after your climax.
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Above all, create space to build trust with your partner.  Space for honest communication around pleasure and around your relationship as a whole.  This intimacy and trust building can manifest through actively negotiating, communicating and journeying together.  Going to a workshop together, picking out toys or lube or lingerie together.  Gift safe space for your partner to express their fantasies and desires and when they do, listen. Good luck on your journey.  May it be filled with happiness, trust, intimacy and pleasure.

Best,
The Sexpert Next Door

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